Friend,

If you’re currently dealing with hurt, you’re not alone. I am also having a hard time these days. Sometimes life just hurts, and we have to figure out how to cope with it. What do you do when you’re at an all-time low, and you can’t seem to pick yourself up? What do you do when you want to just curl into a ball, and not face the stresses that haunt you? What do you do when you don’t want to hear anything that anyone has to say? What do you do when you realize nothing you’ve tried eases your hurt? How do you press on?

LET IT OUT

It’s okay to cry, it’s okay to scream, it’s okay to allow a release of the pinned up anger and fear you hold inside. Sometimes we begin to spiral out of control because we never took the time to LET IT OUT. This issue is a very important part of your healing process, because the way you feel can seem bigger than you. Contemplate how you are affecting others around you by the hurt you are going through. Have you been taking your hurt out on them? This is why it’s so important to let it out, whether that be with yourself (in a journal), with someone else like a counselor or wise counsel, or with the culprit of your hurt. Whether you release by talking it out, going to the gym and punching a punching bag, or crying, your release will allow you to release pinned up energy that will redirect it in a less harmful way. Sometimes, when we allow emotions to build up, we fail to realize they are going to come out eventually. We want to make sure to expel these emotions in a way that will be beneficial for you and for those around you.

MEDITATE

It’s important that you are gentle with yourself and allow yourself to adjust. Though life is continuing around you, you have to regain some form of control within this process. Getting back to yourself will take time. Don’t try to force yourself to get back into the speeding rush of life when you might not be ready for the fast lane just yet. It’s okay, Friend. It’s okay to not be okay. Don’t let anyone rush you into being “okay” when you just aren’t. Take a moment to quiet your mind. Take a moment to breathe and refocus on what’s real and in front of you. Your mind may wander and that’s okay. Meditation is a learned skill. It is proven to make you feel better and be more aware of yourself. It gives you a chance to be more in tune with your mind and your entire being. Try to focus on slowly breathing in and out. Repeat this process for at least ten minutes focusing on nothing else but the breath. Notice how your diaphragm expands and retracts. Bring attention to every limb of your body. As you think of each limb, think: “this limb is healing and well”. Finally finish with the mind. Tell your mind that it is healing and well. Feel your body fill with the love that God has placed inside of you. Take a moment to just, be.

LISTEN TO YOURSELF

Throughout your healing process, it is important to listen to yourself and learn self reflection. What helps me is to quiet my mind and ask myself questions like, “What is making me upset in this moment? What types of things are hindering my thoughts from flowing as they normally do? What is giving me the most anxiety right now? What was the original cause of this hurt? What is the root of this trauma and why is it affected me now? Is there something in the past that has triggered me to feel this way? Have I addressed the reasons why I react this way when someone takes a certain action?”

Give yourself a chance to go deeper into why you are in the state of mind you are in. It is a more effective way to steer yourself into enlightenment and give yourself the power over your mind that you may not have known you had. Repeat this process as much as you need to until you have reached release. Then, you are on the right track of healing, Friend.